You can edit the game file to have the cattle follow you, instead. This takes out the frustration of trying to herd. You can find this tweak, as well as many others, that will help the game become more enjoyable here: forums.taleworlds.net/index.php?PHPSESSID=b5bc4a54b3db4f3b9bfdfef06ed6ce86&topic=46290.0
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