yup i did use the cheats that way.... question can i attack a castle to take over it befoure joining a kingdom?
yes you can just loot a village
Cheat mode:
Open the rgl_config.txt in the installation folder and find the line
cheat_mode = 0
...change it to
cheat_mode = 1
where can i find this file
If your a Steam user you game will probably be in this direction:
Steam/steamapps/common OR Steam/steamapps/
Also, just attack a caravan from the kingdom you want to go to war against and you will get your enemy.